Every human being must find his own way to cope with such severe loss, and the only job of a true friend is to facilitate whatever method he chooses.
“Le doute n’est pas une condition agréable, mais la certitude est absurde.” translated non-literally, but clearly as:
An expert is a person who has found out by his own painful experience all the mistakes that one can make in a very narrow field.
[Though more popular, it is commonly shortened to: "An expert is a person who has made all the mistakes that can be made in a very narrow field."]
I contented myself with whiskey, for medicinal purposes. It helped numb my various aches and pains. Not that the alcohol actually reduced the pain; it just gave the pain a life of its own, apart from mine.
But who can remember pain, once it’s over? All that remains of it is a shadow, not in the mind even, in the flesh. Pain marks you, but too deep to see. Out of sight, out of mind.